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Adoptee Support Group
Community Conduct  &
Terms of Use

A few things before you join...

The support groups were created by adoptees with the explicit intention of being a space for adoptee-centered support, specifically for openly adopted adoptees.


The goal of the support groups is simple: provide a space for adoptees to give and receive support with other adoptees, all of whom are in the process of understanding and dealing with their adoption - whatever that may mean to them.


Wherever you may be on your adoption journey, know that these spaces were cultivated with you in mind.

These groups acknowledge that we are all coming to the table with different experiences, different feelings towards adoption, different ways of dealing with our adoption, and different depths at which adoption has impacted us. Here, we are able to acknowledge the trials and triumphs of adoption: the breaks and repairs between family members, the wounds we may have endured as adoptees, and the journeys of healing that we may just be beginning - or, are in the thick of. The expectation of this space is that all adoptees are welcome and all adoptees respect their fellow adoptees by meeting them where they are at in their stages of processing, understanding, and growth. 

All participants must remember that the foundation of the group is built on support, compassion, and empathy. This means that members who enter the forum should not enter the space with a mindset to determine which experiences are better or worse, which beliefs are right or wrong, or to press political issues that are not related to an adoptee's lived experience. Members should enter this space with the mindset that all experiences, feelings, and perspectives on adoption are valid and come from the internal wisdom we possess through our lived experience. 


Code of Conduct

  1. This is not a professional therapy or counseling group, we are a peer to peer group that is here to support each other. 
    We speak from our own experiences only. 


  2. We share feelings and experiences. Use empathy and reflection. Share advice only if it is asked for.

  3. Everything shared in group does not leave the group.  
    If individuals would like to share something from the group, permission may be given by the participant who shared. . 


  4. All participants accept others just as they are and where they are.
    Approach participants with a sense of curiosity to avoid making judgements. 


  5. Sharing is encouraged, but not required. 

  6. This is a community - all participants share a responsibility in making the support groups a positive space.


Terms of Use

  1. These support groups are for adoptees only. 
    Only adoptees may participate in these support groups. 


  2. Participants must be 18 years of age or older when attending a group. . 

  3. The Adult Adoptees of Color support group is reserved for people who identify as Black, Indigenous, and People of Color (BIPOC).
    People who attend this group and do not identify as BIPOC will be asked to attend the All Adult Adoptees support group and removed from the Adoptees of Color support group space. 


  4. No advertisements or solicitations for products or services are allowed.

  5. Participants who violate the Terms of Use may be denied access.
    Participants  in violation of the Terms of Use
     will immediately be removed.


  6. Participants who violate the Code of Conduct will be given a warning, but if violations continue, they will be denied access to the groups. 

  7. Everything that is said in group, stays in group. No information, images, or any other media shall be used outside without permission from the sharer, in writing. Anyone who violates this, taking media without permission of original sharer will be banned.

  8. This is a non-partisan space focused on the adoptee's experience. Do not express political views that are not related to an adoptee’s experience.